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BadCat
09-11-2009, 10:57 AM
This is one of the worst.

A female says "I love you" very early in a relationship.

I had one tell me that on our second date. I wasn't at all interested in her for anything more than a few rolls in the hay.

I've found that laughing out loud is not usually the appropriate way to deal with it.

Has it ever happened to you?
How did you deal with it?

noonwitch
09-11-2009, 11:01 AM
Then again,your laughing at her perhaps premature declaration of love removes all illusions for her, doesn't it?

linda22003
09-11-2009, 11:01 AM
I always made a point of never being the first to say it. Worked for me.

BadCat
09-11-2009, 11:05 AM
Then again,your laughing at her perhaps premature declaration of love removes all illusions for her, doesn't it?

Yes.
But I have made the mistake of not having a well defined exit route before doing it.

megimoo
09-11-2009, 11:10 AM
Yes.
But I have made the mistake of not having a well defined exit route before doing it.Good thing she wasn't armed !

BadCat
09-11-2009, 11:16 AM
I always made a point of never being the first to say it. Worked for me.

LOL! Me either.

Good thing we never dated...after 20 years we'd both still be wondering.

linda22003
09-11-2009, 11:17 AM
LOL! Me either.

Good thing we never dated...after 20 years we'd both still be wondering.

Oh, there's a point at which it "feels right" and can be almost simultaneous. But yeah, with you and me it probably would have been a sheer struggle of wills. :p

RobJohnson
09-11-2009, 11:25 AM
This is one of the worst.

A female says "I love you" very early in a relationship.

I had one tell me that on our second date. I wasn't at all interested in her for anything more than a few rolls in the hay.

I've found that laughing out loud is not usually the appropriate way to deal with it.

Has it ever happened to you?
How did you deal with it?

Sometimes they like to say it right before sex...so you might have to play along for a few minutes. :)

BadCat
09-11-2009, 11:37 AM
Sometimes they like to say it right before sex...so you might have to play along for a few minutes. :)

That is usually the very horrid "Tell me you love me" or "Do you love me?"

Damn, I hate when that happens.

Gingersnap
09-11-2009, 11:43 AM
Personally, I kept my options open until I got the ring on. :p

BadCat
09-11-2009, 11:44 AM
Personally, I kept my options open until I got the ring on. :p

You didn't tell him until then?

I didn't know your man was a gambler.

megimoo
09-11-2009, 11:44 AM
Do You Love Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAVn4-17Bjs

........................
The Contours (Dirty Dancing) - Do you love me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1iFjPNTI0I

Gingersnap
09-11-2009, 11:56 AM
You didn't tell him until then?

I didn't know your man was a gambler.

I might have mentioned it but I know I didn't go on and on about it. Actions speak louder than words for this type of thing. ;)

BadCat
09-11-2009, 12:04 PM
I might have mentioned it but I know I didn't go on and on about it. Actions speak louder than words for this type of thing. ;)

That's why I like you, you're such a romantic.

I'm not sure I could ever go the ring route without a 99.999999% assurance she was going to say "yes".

stsinner
09-11-2009, 12:09 PM
That is usually the very horrid "Tell me you love me" or "Do you love me?"

Damn, I hate when that happens.

I once had a, "Friend with benefits," that would pull this... After weighing the likely outcomes, I said the only possible thing.... "Of course."

Speedy
09-11-2009, 12:16 PM
I always say, "I love you to" and start fucking them steadily as I work on an exit strategy.

linda22003
09-11-2009, 12:35 PM
I always say, "I love you to" and start fucking them steadily as I work on an exit strategy.

"I love you to" what? You didn't finish the sentence.

BadCat
09-11-2009, 12:36 PM
"I love you to" what? You didn't finish the sentence.

I can think of lots of words that would go after "to" in that situation.

Speedy
09-11-2009, 12:52 PM
"I love you to" what? You didn't finish the sentence.

Yeah, I did. As long as I did not say "I love you too" I am in the clear. To with one "O" works. When she says, "I love you" there is an escalation in the sexual part of the relationship. If there is no sex there will now be sex. If there is already sex then it opens the door to kinkier sex.

stsinner
09-11-2009, 12:54 PM
Yeah, I did. As long as I did not say "I love you too" I am in the clear. To with one "O" works. When she says, "I love you" there is an escalation in the sexual part of the relationship. If there is no sex there will now be sex. If there is already sex then it opens the door to kinkier sex.

Now, that's funny... I don't care who you are..

PoliCon
09-11-2009, 03:02 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPL76ix-ADk

Zathras
09-11-2009, 03:52 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPL76ix-ADk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BmVyUpsUDnE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r41U_T7pQjQ

Speedy
09-11-2009, 04:38 PM
Weird Al's You Don't Love Me Anymore has got to be one of the funniest songs ever written. Just look at the lyrics.


"You Don't Love Me Anymore"

We've been together for so very long
But now things are changing, oh I wonder what's wrong?
Seems you don't want me around
The passion is gone and the flame's died down

I guess I lost a little bit of self-esteem
That time that you made it with the whole hockey team
You used to think I was nice
Now you tell all your friends that I'm the Antichrist

Oh, why did you disconnect the brakes in my car?
That kind of thing is hard to ignore
Got a funny feeling you don't love me anymore

I knew that we were having problems when
You put those piranhas in my bathtub again
You're still the light of my life
Oh darling, I'm beggin', won't you put down that knife?

You know, I even think it's kinda cute the way
You poison my coffee just a little each day
I still remember the way that you laughed
When you pushed me down that elevator shaft

Oh, if you don't mind me asking, what's this poisonous cobra
Doing in my underwear drawer?
Sometime I get to thinking you don't love me any more

You slammed my face down on the barbecue grill
Now my scars are all healing, but my heart never will
You set my house on fire
You pulled out my chest hairs with an old pair of pliers

Oh, you think that I'm ugly and you say that I'm cheap
You shaved off my eyebrows while I was asleep
You drilled a hole in my head
Then you dumped me in a drainage ditch and left me for dead

Oh, you know this really isn't like you at all
You never acted this way before
Honey, something tells me you don't love me any more, oh no no
Got a funny feeling you don't love me anymore

GRiver
09-11-2009, 08:36 PM
Yeah, I did. As long as I did not say "I love you too" I am in the clear. To with one "O" works. When she says, "I love you" there is an escalation in the sexual part of the relationship. If there is no sex there will now be sex. If there is already sex then it opens the door to kinkier sex.

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/organo/Lmao.jpg

RobJohnson
09-11-2009, 09:05 PM
That is usually the very horrid "Tell me you love me" or "Do you love me?"

Damn, I hate when that happens.

yup...but I have went two or three years without saying "I love you too"

Saying "I love you" is just like duct tape & roses. It fixes everything. :)

MountainMan
09-11-2009, 09:05 PM
Good thing she wasn't armed !
Or married