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Bubba Dawg
01-24-2010, 09:09 AM
Rainy and cold on the Mountain. 41 degrees and it has been raining all night with no sign of letting up any time soon.

No yard work today. :D

I love the poetry of Robert Frost. The Road Not Taken is a favorite. It is about the choices we face in life and the consequences of those choices.


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Every choice we make in life is, by default, a choice not to do some other thing. Sometimes a choice is a decision between two viable alternatives while other times a choice may be forced upon us by circumstance.

Either way, we have all come to many forks in the road and have necessarily left behind roads not taken.

TOTD: What roads in your life have you not taken that you sometimes wish you had?

Sonnabend
01-24-2010, 09:46 AM
TOTD: What roads in your life have you not taken that you sometimes wish you had?

"There's nothing to be gained by second-guessing yourself. You can't remake the past. So look ahead… or risk being left behind" - Vala MalDoran

RobJohnson
01-24-2010, 10:58 AM
"There's nothing to be gained by second-guessing yourself. You can't remake the past. So look ahead… or risk being left behind" - Vala MalDoran

Well said.

The rain and wind has stopped & the weather has been great.

Friends & I took my mom out last night to see some live music. My mom & her friend Pam ended up out on the dance floor. It was such a Blessing to see. I'm pretty sure it's the first time my mom ever danced without my dad being there or dancing with her.

TOTD: Time spent thinking about such things would be better spent simply moving forward.

lacarnut
01-24-2010, 12:36 PM
Shirt sleeve weather here. Baking some gospel bird for lunch and eagerly awaiting the 2 playoff football games this evening. Go Saints & Indy.

RobJohnson
01-24-2010, 01:14 PM
Shirt sleeve weather here. Baking some gospel bird for lunch and eagerly awaiting the 2 playoff football games this evening. Go Saints & Indy.

It sounds like you have a nice day planned.

If I lived a little closer, I would stop by and help you eat the bird!

Speedy
01-24-2010, 01:24 PM
Well said.

The rain and wind has stopped & the weather has been great.

Friends & I took my mom out last night to see some live music. My mom & her friend Pam ended up out on the dance floor. It was such a Blessing to see. I'm pretty sure it's the first time my mom ever danced without my dad being there or dancing with her.

TOTD: Time spent thinking about such things would be better spent simply moving forward.

When I got married to my first wife in 1980, my grandmother had not been to a dance in over 30 years. She had been a widow since my grandfather died when my dad was off fighting in the Korean war. One of my new bride's brothers was a bit tipsy and asked my grandmother out to dance. She had been asking for a ride home before then. She accepted and was very happy. She took that one dance as a nice, well meant joke. The thing is she loosened up and had been able to trip the light fantastic quite well when younger. Even at her age she was quite a dancer once it all came back. Other young men asked her out to dance and she kept dancing. When an aunt of mine offered to take her home, she refused. She stayed quite late.

My grandmother and me had always been quite close. When I was a kid (and dirt poor) she would make toys out of matchboxes and buttons for me. She taught me how to shoot with my grandfather's old M1911. I have a lot of great memories of growing up with her in my life. When she got alzhiemer's before she died, all those memories disappeared, but to her dying day, she remembered dancing the night away at my wedding.

Bubba Dawg
01-24-2010, 02:31 PM
I agree that spending time looking back in grief or with a sense of loss because of decisions we have made can be fruitless.

The thing is, every road not taken also represents a road we did take. I quit school and went to work. That was a choice. Later I went back to school and got a degree. That was another road not taken (continuing at my present job) and also a road taken (going to school).

I see that as a positive thing. When I went back to school I was older and was a more dedicated student. I also loved school. I still have a love of learning.

I also used to be a very dedicated Democrat. I worked hard for the party. I now consider myself an Independent and generally vote Republican.

Politically that was a fork in the road. I had a choice to make. I turned Right on that one. :D

There are lots of choices we make on a lot of different aspects of our lives.

I don't spend a lot of time ruminating about things I wanted to do and was unable to have the opportunity to achieve. Sometimes a cherished dream from the past crosses my mind and I feel wistful, but I like my life.

Jfor
01-24-2010, 09:30 PM
Kinda cool here in Dallas this evening.

For me it was a couple of wrong decisions. The first was out of high school I was invited to try out for the local AAA baseball team, The Huntsville Stars. I joined the Navy instead. One of those deals where I wished I could go back because I was VERY good in Baseball.

The other was after the Navy I was attending school at the University of Alabama. I was working out with several of the football players. Would go and run drills with them. Got to know some of the coaches and they wanted me to try and walk on. I had the size, 6'1" 245 and definitely had the speed, 4.3 40. This was during the Dubose era and instead I got married. At the time I thought it was the right decision. Then I got divorced because I found out she was a lying, cheating whore.

Speedy
01-24-2010, 09:56 PM
I had a discussion with a coworker once. He was lamenting how fucked up his life was I told him, "If you look back at your life honestly with a critical eye, you will see the exact decisions and choices you made that led you to this very moment." I have looked back at mine and know how I got here.

Shannon
01-24-2010, 10:04 PM
I'm exhausted. :(

TOTD: It is what it is.;)

RobJohnson
01-25-2010, 04:07 AM
When I got married to my first wife in 1980, my grandmother had not been to a dance in over 30 years. She had been a widow since my grandfather died when my dad was off fighting in the Korean war. One of my new bride's brothers was a bit tipsy and asked my grandmother out to dance. She had been asking for a ride home before then. She accepted and was very happy. She took that one dance as a nice, well meant joke. The thing is she loosened up and had been able to trip the light fantastic quite well when younger. Even at her age she was quite a dancer once it all came back. Other young men asked her out to dance and she kept dancing. When an aunt of mine offered to take her home, she refused. She stayed quite late.

My grandmother and me had always been quite close. When I was a kid (and dirt poor) she would make toys out of matchboxes and buttons for me. She taught me how to shoot with my grandfather's old M1911. I have a lot of great memories of growing up with her in my life. When she got alzhiemer's before she died, all those memories disappeared, but to her dying day, she remembered dancing the night away at my wedding.

Great story! :)

RobJohnson
01-25-2010, 04:21 AM
I had a fun weekend. I did pretty well Saturday night at the Casino and today was a little better...

Had a few drinks, seen alot of friends, had some good food, and when the band was on break, we walked over to another casino that had to hand pay me a jackpot...

http://img198.imageshack.us/img198/666/0124001704.jpg (http://img198.imageshack.us/i/0124001704.jpg/)

Bleda
01-25-2010, 04:26 AM
I'm exhausted. :(


Too much sex does that to ya. :rolleyes:

Sonnabend
01-25-2010, 08:38 AM
Shannon has SEX? :eek:

noonwitch
01-25-2010, 03:22 PM
All the snow melted over the weekend, and it's getting cold today, and we are expected to get more snow tonight.


TOTD: If I had married my high school boyfriend and forgone college. I always remind myself that if I had done so, I'd still be in Grand Rapids, I'd possibly be a grandmother (at 45!), and would likely be an alcoholic.