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CaughtintheMiddle1990
03-25-2010, 08:18 PM
What I mean is...
Do you let politics get in the way of befriending someone who thinks differently from you? For example, for the many conservatives here, do you have any friends who are liberal? Likewise for the libs here, vice versa. I don't know how to better phrase the question. How about significant others? Does anyone here date or are married to or dated a person whose political ideology differed from yours?

Also, do you let politics inform your judgment of that person's character or morals?

Myself, I have friends on both the conservative and liberal side of life. I tend to like talking to conservatives, especially social conservatives because our differences in ideology make for interesting conversation. I find other liberals a bit too whiney for my tastes though I do have friends that are liberals. I even dated a girl who turned out to be a hard core socialist, but when I dated her I wasn't really interested in politics. Extremely bright girl, but stupid politically; I also dated a conservative or at least a Republican--she was a big Palin fan. Politics didn't get in the way of our relationship though.

Big Guy
03-25-2010, 08:29 PM
Not me, some of my best friends are liberals or as I tell them "Politically Stupid".

The thing is, friends are just that... freinds. Friends can have polical discussions and ideas that are counter to each other.

Most people that I know that do allow pollitical differences to get in the way are "tolerant" LIBERALS.

I have had a friend for quite a few years, she saw that I became a fan of Marsh Blackburn (R) on Facebook, she responded "OMG SHE IS AN IDIOT" and removed me as her friend. I haven't heard from her since. I was well aware of her political views all along, she is as anti was Lesbian who HATED President Bush, I remained her friend.

Some of our co-workers asked her "JUST WHAT ABOUT HIM DOES NOT SCREAM CONSERVATIVE"?

She has removed them too.

Gingersnap
03-25-2010, 08:45 PM
When I married Mr. Snaps he was enamored of the hippy days and his brother was an extremely left-of-center guy. That BIL spent a lot time talking to Mr. Snaps about corporations, the VRWC, war, inner city poverty (although he hadn't actually been in an inner city), etc.

I pretty much ignored all that. Having been rural poor, I knew exactly which values worked to change grinding poverty. Luckily, Mr. Snaps understood that too although he clung (for a while) to his brother's pop culture ideology.

I tend to dance with left-of-center relatives and friends. Since I value them for something beyond their politics, I'm willing to avoid discussions that would distress them (and amuse me).

The Edwardians had it right: don't discuss sex, politics, or religion in "mixed" company. ;)

Rockntractor
03-25-2010, 08:49 PM
Yes, very much so.

Freeman_Shadwell
03-25-2010, 08:56 PM
I have a few liberal friends and some liberal family members. I don't bring up politics with them. But you can bet your ass that they try to take a shot at conservatives or republicans every chance they get. Of course logic and fact trump their ridiculousness every time, but they continue to try to argue by repeating talking points.


I don't have a problem being friends with a liberal, it's liberals that have a problem being friends with a conservative. That whole tolerance thing and all. :rolleyes:

Kay
03-25-2010, 10:03 PM
I think ANYONE that would align themselves with the democrat party as it is today is a total loon. I find that kind of mentality to be a total character flaw that I can't get past.

NJCardFan
03-25-2010, 11:05 PM
I have friends of both philosophies. We get along great. We get into debates and usually agree to disagree. Only DU liberals end friendships over petty stuff like politics.

Zathras
03-25-2010, 11:10 PM
When it comes to friends in my life, I do not discuss politicts or religion with them at all. I've lost too many good friends due to arguments about those two subjects. In fact I don't have any idea what my close friend's political or religious leanings are and I'm keeping it that way. We have too many other things to talk about that we all enjoy...no sense bringing something up that could form a permanent rift between us.

Rockntractor
03-25-2010, 11:12 PM
I think ANYONE that would align themselves with the democrat party as it is today is a total loon. I find that kind of mentality to be a total character flaw that I can't get past.
My sentiments exactly!

PoliCon
03-25-2010, 11:16 PM
The Edwardians had it right: don't discuss sex, politics, or religion in "mixed" company. ;) It's the only way that we manage to have civil family gatherings.

djones520
03-26-2010, 12:14 AM
Not at all. One of my best friends is a raving moonbat. When you form friendships with people, in my experience at least, you don't start off with a questionare about their political beliefs. You find things that you like about them before politics ever usually comes up.

In my opinion, people who will cut off friendships because of things like politics are sad. There is plenty more to life, and if your going to let it have that much control over your life, then you need to just back away from it all.

nightflight
03-26-2010, 01:01 AM
I have a couple of friends at work who are flaming libs; I get along fine with them and we make cracks about people on both sides.

Sonnabend
03-26-2010, 02:56 AM
My friends are my friends, I do not judge them for what they believe. Liberals, on the other hand, are quick to distance themselves from anyone who dares disagree with THEM, and treat such people with contempt.

Tolerance, it seems, goes only one way with liberals, agree with them or else.

djones520
03-26-2010, 03:09 AM
My friends are my friends, I do not judge them for what they believe. Liberals, on the other hand, are quick to distance themselves from anyone who dares disagree with THEM, and treat such people with contempt.

Tolerance, it seems, goes only one way with liberals, agree with them or else.

Don't be so quick to point the finger. We've already had two people in here state much the same for how they view liberals. As I said, I'm best friends with a raving liberal. She doesn't like my choice in politics, but it doesn't influence our friendship negatively. If anything it's strengthened it.

As far as I can tell, the only real evidence saying that "liberals" do it as policy, is through the actions of members of DU. And as much as I can't stand those people, I won't hold them up as an example of all people who have left leaning political beliefs.

PoliCon
03-26-2010, 07:00 AM
I have never ended a friendship with anyone over politics. I have however had people end friendships with me over politics.

FlaGator
03-26-2010, 07:04 AM
The majority of my friends are conservative but I friendships with lots of people with differing philosophies.As long as we can stay out of touchy areas or can address those differences in a civil manner I don't have any problems with them nor they we me. Excluding politics we often have more in common than we do things that divide us.

linda22003
03-26-2010, 07:15 AM
I agree with Buster Keaton's philosophy:
"As friends we don't see eye to eye, but then, we don't hear ear to ear, either."

noonwitch
03-26-2010, 07:53 AM
I have plenty of conservative friends, but my field of work is pretty liberal-dominated (social work is in general), and my church is very liberal.

I grew up a liberal in a conservative community. My dad always said about the dutch reformed that dominated Grand Rapids, "they are different from us, but they are good people". He said it was like living in a community with jews-the schools are good, the food is cheap and they always give you a good deal in business transactions.

Jfor
03-26-2010, 09:36 AM
The fact that I consider liberals the same as thing as communists, marxists, maoists, socialists etc... WHy would I befriend somebody who does not like the Constitution or America? I have no time to entertain or even debate with them about their ideals. I will not knowingly associate with their type.

Megaguns91
03-26-2010, 09:49 AM
I have trouble playing nice with others, especially liberals. If they're good liberals, kind and not too outspoken and willing to accept me for my own, then I tolerate (and sometimes even grow fond of) them.

Blatantly outspoken morons who sit on their rumps all day and call themselve's "intellectuals" and "artists" that are nothing more than hypocrites tick me off.

Almost 100% of my friends are conservative. Not republican. Not democrat. Conservative, perhaps even a few libertarians.

Wei Wu Wei
03-26-2010, 12:47 PM
It's all good. I rather enjoy surrounding myself with people who disagree with me, it hedges against me forming the delusion that I'm right about everything.

AmPat
03-26-2010, 01:23 PM
I think ANYONE that would align themselves with the democrat party as it is today is a total loon. I find that kind of mentality to be a total character flaw that I can't get past.

This pretty much sums up my view. I won't refuse a chance to befriend a liberal. I will not tolerate raving lunatic, fact refusing moonbats in my orbit. Either you have a love for this country and a respect for the Constitution, or I have no use for you.

PoliCon
03-26-2010, 04:21 PM
It's all good. I rather enjoy surrounding myself with people who disagree with me, it hedges against me forming the delusion that I'm right about everything.

Dude - when are you right about ANYTHING??:rolleyes:

BadCat
03-26-2010, 04:32 PM
You bet it does.

I wouldn't be friends with a liberal if they were the only other person on earth.

Sonnabend
03-26-2010, 04:51 PM
it hedges against me forming the delusion that I'm right about everything.To even begin to address that dementia, we'd need the population of the US and Australia...pity we cant do anything about your lack of brain cells and BDS.

MrsSmith
03-26-2010, 08:05 PM
I have never discarded a friend over their liberal political or religious beliefs. The opposite, however, is not true. In fact, I have one coworker who has managed to split our department on those exact lines. When she is at work, no one "mixes." When she's gone, everyone gets along fine. She is WAY left of center, of course.

fettpett
03-26-2010, 08:25 PM
I have MANY Liberal friends, always have. I stick to my guns though, most of them respect me for my views, and I respect them for theirs.

Family...My Dad's a pretty big Conservative, infact i'm a "Rush Baby" because of him. My mom's side...I have no idea since we've never really discussed politics (surprisingly)

My wife's family....don't get me started...most of them are Lock-Step Democrats that think Rebuplican's are the bane of life...../sigh

enslaved1
03-26-2010, 08:27 PM
I have a wife, 4 kids and a mother in law in the house, so that takes care of 99.9% of my social interaction needs. :) Online, I have several tweeps and FB friends that are very liberal, we go rounds occasionally, but so far everyone keeps things civil, which is fine by me. Echo chambers are boring, so keeping inteligent, if misguided libs around is ususally good, and raving moonbats provide solid entertainment value if they don't get all 2nd grade talking about "I'm not going to be your friend anymore!".