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aka:PBS
04-17-2010, 02:51 PM
Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Sat Apr-17-10 07:56 AM
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My friend's kid is being gay-bashed.
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Edited on Sat Apr-17-10 07:59 AM by Smarmie Doofus
He's in the third grade. ( That's Grade 3).

After-school tears are involved. Questions from kid. Parental consternation. Uncertainty about what, if anything, to do .

Not that it should make a difference, BUT.... he's probably NOT gay. He's smart; smallish; kinda... I don't know... "spontaneous". Effusive.

Part of the bashing involves other kids shoving him so that he crashes into a third party; then they yell "homo".

( Friend tells me all this right after I get off the treadmill at the gym where I'm watching a video-follies type show on Comedy Central wherein the host is making "That's so gay" comments ... without any apparent irony.... so numerous that I found myself semi-consciously trying to count them.)

OK; "You can't blame this one on the media, Ellen." Well... yes and no, I'm thinking.

So: what to do. Insights? Ideas?

That's *THIRD* fucking grade.


http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=8165313&mesg_id=8165313

so how old is this kid...10-12 years old? I really don't think it is gay bashing.

djones520
04-17-2010, 02:58 PM
A not so proud moment of my childhood, in 4th grade, I was part of a group that drove a kid to changing classes because of something just like this. Apparently he went home every day pretty much devestated. He didn't do anything to earn it, we were frankly just being bullies.

It does happen. Whether or not the proper term is gay bashing, we 9-10 year old kids sent a kid that age into a depression that involved him being moved because we accused him of being gay non-stop. :(

PoliCon
04-17-2010, 03:21 PM
If Gays 'culture' was not so in-your-face and over the top it would not be on the radar of 3rd graders. HELLO!?

PoliCon
04-17-2010, 03:22 PM
A not so proud moment of my childhood, in 4th grade, I was part of a group that drove a kid to changing classes because of something just like this. Apparently he went home every day pretty much devestated. He didn't do anything to earn it, we were frankly just being bullies.

It does happen. Whether or not the proper term is gay bashing, we 9-10 year old kids sent a kid that age into a depression that involved him being moved because we accused him of being gay non-stop. :(

Seek him out and apologize. You'd be surprised how much good a simple apology can do.

djones520
04-17-2010, 03:24 PM
Seek him out and apologize. You'd be surprised how much good a simple apology can do.

Don't remember his name, and both of us were military children. Who knows were he's moved to in the last 15 years. It's not weighing that much on my soul.

PoliCon
04-17-2010, 03:26 PM
Don't remember his name, and both of us were military children. Who knows were he's moved to in the last 15 years. It's not weighing that much on my soul.

maybe not on yours - but most likely on his.

FlaGator
04-17-2010, 03:28 PM
If you bash a kid as gay and he's not gay does he really make a sound that the ACLU can hear?

Elspeth
04-17-2010, 09:48 PM
Look, the kid in the OP is in 3rd grade. Cut the parent some slack.

I knew a kid that was bashed in school: called "gaylord" and all kinds of crap by nasty little boys, then nasty little junior high boys, then nasty teenagers. You think it doesn't take a toll, but it does. The kid ended up as a teen dropout, on meds for bi-polar disorder, and nearly cut his arms to the bone one night, involving an emergency trip to the hospital and a psych consult.

I don't care what the bashing is about: it causes lifelong problems. This poor kid never got to be normal.

PoliCon
04-18-2010, 09:20 AM
Look, the kid in the OP is in 3rd grade. Cut the parent some slack.

I knew a kid that was bashed in school: called "gaylord" and all kinds of crap by nasty little boys, then nasty little junior high boys, then nasty teenagers. You think it doesn't take a toll, but it does. The kid ended up as a teen dropout, on meds for bi-polar disorder, and nearly cut his arms to the bone one night, involving an emergency trip to the hospital and a psych consult.

I don't care what the bashing is about: it causes lifelong problems. This poor kid never got to be normal.

being picked on does not make you bi-polar.

aka:PBS
04-18-2010, 12:41 PM
Look, the kid in the OP is in 3rd grade. Cut the parent some slack.

I knew a kid that was bashed in school: called "gaylord" and all kinds of crap by nasty little boys, then nasty little junior high boys, then nasty teenagers. You think it doesn't take a toll, but it does. The kid ended up as a teen dropout, on meds for bi-polar disorder, and nearly cut his arms to the bone one night, involving an emergency trip to the hospital and a psych consult.

I don't care what the bashing is about: it causes lifelong problems. This poor kid never got to be normal.

How in the hell does being picked on make you bi-polar? Do explain that one.

noonwitch
04-19-2010, 10:19 AM
Isn't "homo" a pretty common insult for 3rd grade boys to use on each other? The kid should just laugh it off and accuse the other kid of being a homo the first time his parents make him do something geeky. Then, after calling him a homo, he should punch him in the arm. That's how boys make friends, at least that's how they did when I was in 3rd grade.

Rebel Yell
04-19-2010, 01:19 PM
I guess it was different for me. I went to a small school in a small town. Everybody had dirt on everybody else. We ALL caught hell, but we weren't pussies about it either.

Rebel Yell
04-19-2010, 01:20 PM
Isn't "homo" a pretty common insult for 3rd grade boys to use on each other? The kid should just laugh it off and accuse the other kid of being a homo the first time his parents make him do something geeky. Then, after calling him a homo, he should punch him in the arm. That's how boys make friends, at least that's how they did when I was in 3rd grade.

Society deems boys like you went to school with and how I was as a bad thing. They should all act like little girls.

noonwitch
04-19-2010, 01:41 PM
Society deems boys like you went to school with and how I was as a bad thing. They should all act like little girls.


Well, then, I guess he should just take his Ritalin and swallow all the rage until he can't take it anymore and locks himself in the bathroom for hours while crying and writing in his diary. Isn't that what girls do?

Rebel Yell
04-19-2010, 02:58 PM
Well, then, I guess he should just take his Ritalin and swallow all the rage until he can't take it anymore and locks himself in the bathroom for hours while crying and writing in his diary. Isn't that what girls do?

That's pretty much it.