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JBG
04-18-2010, 10:30 PM
I originally wrote this on the occasion of the 30th anniversary of my fatherís death (January 5, 1973), before going to Temple today to mark that anniversary and then put it to one side.

The period of my life bracketed by my fatherís death was a period of my life marked by great promise, great tragedy, and great change. Unfortunately and sadly, I have not always lived up to that promise, though at 45 I suppose thereís still time.

I turned 15 in April 1972. While I always did well academically, I had never done well socially and that year, my freshman year of high school, was about the worst. My parents were asked to consider putting me in another school. That summer, I was thrown out of the first camp I went to after half the summer.

The second half started the more positive phase, though marked by a developing tragedy. First, the bad part. My fatherís colon cancer had started to recur, though we didnít quite know it, at least officially. Now the good part, and the part that relates somewhat to Canada.

I went to a different camp for the second half of the summer. It featured limited travel as part of the program. For the first time in my life, I made friends relatively easily. One of those was a girl. We repeatedly ran into each other and were singing the same song, coincidentally, each time. I think the songs were Joni Mitchellís (of Canada) Both Sides Now. The other was Led Zeppellinís Stairway to Heaven. Hereís the Canadian part. The final trip of the summer was to Quintes Isle, Ontario. That was my first of many trips to Canada.

After returning home, my school was still pretty serious about getting me out, but they had no grounds to expel me. My family and the school settled on my starting some activities that began before school started to see what happened. I chose marching band (I played tuba, which was odd since I was 5í5Ē) and soccer. Both went well.

That semester, I was active in band, soccer, the school newspaper and the weather club (which is why you see me on the Kyoto threads constantly). Though in soccer I was a fullback, they put me in once as forward, because the New Rochelle team was getting a bit aggressive. I scored a goal during my 3 minutes in.

During that period, I made lots of friends, a few of which I still am close with 30 years later. It was one of the happiest, most productive periods of my life. It was, unfortunately, also marked by my fatherís rapid decline and death from cancer. We played tennis for the last time in October 1972 and he died at the beginning of January 1973.

One thing I decided I needed to retool my list of friends. The problem was that many of them had the maturity level, at best, of Grade 7 students, and we were in Grad 10. The condolensce notes from the "old" group of friends were scribbled, often illegible, and written in barely grammatical English. It was almost "Internet-speak" 1973 style. Because I had not yet learned enough how to be nice to people, I didn't keep many of my then-new friends. All of these people turned out to be worthwhile but I alienated many.

One I was lucky enough to keep was someone else whose name, ironically, was "Jim" also. I met him when we were 15. I cracked a dumb joke about "the rabbi, the priest and the lawyer" or something to that effect. He interrupted, and asked if I had any pride in being Jewish. Since his last name was something akin to "Smith" (not his name obviously) I had no idea that he was Jewish. From that, we became quite close friends over the years, though mostly after we left high school and went to different colleges. We've attended each others' bereavements and joyous events since and he remains my closest friends.

However, that was the only one I really remained close friends with. When I say I have not always lived up to the promise of that period, I mean that I am not all that I can be. I am, on balance, not satisfied with the friends Iíve made since that period (with the exception, of course, of my wife). I have allowed myself to be sidetracked by petty insecurities and concerns, things that, in the long run, didnít and donít matter.

When I say I have not always lived up to the promise of that period, I mean that I am not all that I can be. I am, on balance, not satisfied with the friends Iíve made since that period (with the exception, of course, of my wife). I have allowed myself to be sidetracked by petty insecurities and concerns, things that, in the long run, didnít and donít matter.

If there was a time Iíd like to go back to, itís that period. Iíd like to start over and do many things differently and better.

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 10:48 PM
Welcome. How old are you now, if I may ask?

patriot45
04-18-2010, 10:53 PM
Welcome. How old are you now, if I may ask?

Math's not your long suit is it! :cool:


I turned 15 in April 1972.

If your gonna read a screed, comprehend it!

JBG
04-18-2010, 10:55 PM
Welcome. How old are you now, if I may ask?


Math's not your long suit is it! :cool:

If your gonna read a screed, comprehend it!
53 as of a few weeks ago.

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 11:01 PM
Math's not your long suit is it! :cool:

...though at 45 I suppose thereís still time.

...I turned 15 in April 1972.


Actually, it is. That is why I asked. And thank you JBG.

JBG
04-18-2010, 11:02 PM
If your gonna read a screed, comprehend it!Is "screed" a negative term?

patriot45
04-18-2010, 11:04 PM
Actually, it is. That is why I asked. And thank you JBG.

Hmmm! I better get my comprehension in tune! You're right!

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 11:05 PM
Is "screed" a negative term?

Only if Pat is writing it. Welcome.

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 11:06 PM
Hmmm! I better get my comprehension in tune! You're right!

I thought I was wrong once too, but I was mistaken.

patriot45
04-18-2010, 11:08 PM
Is "screed" a negative term?

No, it just seems that the libs on here like to write long deep posts to get us thinking and replying to what end I don't know! The longer the post the less interested I get, short attention span I guess.
You'll get parts of my life in small vignettes, unless its in the whiny zone, then screeds are exceptable and manditory!

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 11:14 PM
No, it just seems that the libs on here like to write long deep posts to get us thinking and replying to what end I don't know! The longer the post the less interested I get, short attention span I guess.
You'll get parts of my life in small vignettes, unless its in the whiny zone, then screeds are exceptable and manditory!


TL;DR

patriot45
04-18-2010, 11:26 PM
TL;DR

:confused:

LMNOP: HIJK

Articulate_Ape
04-18-2010, 11:36 PM
:confused:

LMNOP: HIJK

Heh. TL;DR (http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/TLDR)

patriot45
04-18-2010, 11:42 PM
Heh. TL;DR (http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/TLDR)

OMG! LMAO! LOL! I get it now!

JBG
04-19-2010, 12:05 AM
No, it just seems that the libs on here like to write long deep posts to get us thinking and replying to what end I don't know! The longer the post the less interested I get, short attention span I guess.
You'll get parts of my life in small vignettes, unless its in the whiny zone, then screeds are exceptable and manditory!Honestly, I'm not that liberal.

My political heros are Robert Mugabe and Hugo Chavez. And the successful rulers of that socialist paradise NK.

patriot45
04-19-2010, 12:11 AM
Honestly, I'm not that liberal.

My political heros are Robert Mugabe and Hugo Chavez. And the successful rulers of that socialist paradise NK.

Shoulda used the sarcasm smiley, those guys don't post here!:rolleyes:

JBG
04-19-2010, 12:13 AM
Shoulda used the sarcasm smiley, those guys don't post here!:rolleyes:That was supposed to cut and paste in after Ahmejenedad and Castro </sarcasm> Is that it?

And how did you know I don't have great admiration for those comrades?

patriot45
04-19-2010, 12:19 AM
That was supposed to cut and paste in after Ahmejenedad and Castro </sarcasm> Is that it?

And how did you know I don't have great admiration for those comrades?

You misunderstood! I figure you do admire them, why didn't you mention Che? Do you have a che t-shirt?

JBG
04-19-2010, 12:21 AM
You misunderstood! I figure you do admire them, why didn't you mention Che? Do you have a che t-shirt?No. His picture is painted on the ceiling in our bedroom and decorates the entire wall of our synagogue.

We also celebrate every year the success of the Great Leap Forward, the Cultural Revolution and the agrarian policies of Democratic Kampuchea.

patriot45
04-19-2010, 12:35 AM
No. His picture is painted on the ceiling in our bedroom and decorates the entire wall of our synagogue.

We also celebrate every year the success of the Great Leap Forward, the Cultural Revolution and the agrarian policies of Democratic Kampuchea.

:D

Constitutionally Speaking
04-19-2010, 06:35 AM
JBG is a long time member. Not a troll.

JBG
04-19-2010, 09:47 AM
No. His picture is painted on the ceiling in our bedroom and decorates the entire wall of our synagogue.

We also celebrate every year the success of the Great Leap Forward, the Cultural Revolution and the agrarian policies of Democratic Kampuchea.


:D
I guess you don't buy my enthusiasm for those events.

JBG
04-19-2010, 10:55 AM
JBG is a long time member. Not a troll.Thanks.

I'm not that long-time a member, but I'm definitely not a troll.I joined about 18 months ago and basically forgot that I joined. I remembered it when going through my e-mail subfolder for Internet forums, confirming registrations. I decided to get a bit more active.

Also, even though I'm a Democrat I went to an initial meeting of the Republican Jewish Coalition and am planning on joining, assuming I don't have to change party affiliations.

Rockntractor
04-19-2010, 11:46 AM
Thanks.

I'm not that long-time a member, but I'm definitely not a troll.I joined about 18 months ago and basically forgot that I joined. I remembered it when going through my e-mail subfolder for Internet forums, confirming registrations. I decided to get a bit more active.

Also, even though I'm a Democrat I went to an initial meeting of the Republican Jewish Coalition and am planning on joining, assuming I don't have to change party affiliations.

You would make a very nice addition to the Republican or libertarian party!

The Democratic party left you awhile back and it is evident in your opinions.

JBG
04-19-2010, 01:05 PM
You would make a very nice addition to the Republican or libertarian party!Thank you.

But I think my belief in the necessity for Federal involvement in numerous matters would preclude my being either a Republican or a Libertarian.