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Gingersnap
11-06-2010, 09:08 PM
The Truth About Beauty

There are certain practical realities of existence that most of us accept. If you want to catch a bear, you don't load the trap with a copy of Catch-22—not unless you rub it with a considerable quantity of raw hamburger. If you want to snag a fish, you can't just slap the water with your hand and yell, "Jump on my hook, already!" Yet, if you're a woman who wants to land a man, there's this notion that you should be able to go around looking like Ernest Borgnine: If you're "beautiful on the inside," that's all that should count. Right. And I should have a flying car and a mansion in Bel Air with servants and a moat.

Welcome to Uglytopia—the world reimagined as a place where it's the content of a woman's character, not her pushup bra, that puts her on the cover of Maxim. It just doesn't seem fair to us that some people come into life with certain advantages—whether it's a movie star chin or a multimillion-dollar shipbuilding inheritance. Maybe we need affirmative action for ugly people; make George Clooney rotate in some homely women between all his gorgeous girlfriends. While we wish things were different, we'd best accept the ugly reality: No man will turn his head to ogle a woman because she looks like the type to buy a turkey sandwich for a homeless man or read to the blind.
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There is a vast body of evidence indicating that men and women are biologically and psychologically different, and that what heterosexual men and women want in partners directly corresponds to these differences. The features men evolved to go for in women—youth, clear skin, a symmetrical face and body, feminine facial features, an hourglass figure—are those indicating that a woman would be a healthy, fertile candidate to pass on a man's genes.

These preferences span borders, cultures, and generations, meaning yes, there really are universal standards of beauty. And while Western women do struggle to be slim, the truth is, women in all cultures eat (or don't) to appeal to "the male gaze." The body size that's idealized in a particular culture appears to correspond to the availability of food. In cultures like ours, where you can't go five miles without passing a 7-Eleven and food is sold by the pallet-load at warehouse grocery stores, thin women are in. In cultures where food is scarce (like in Sahara-adjacent hoods), blubber is beautiful, and women appeal to men by stuffing themselves until they're slim like Jabba the Hut.

Men's looks matter to heterosexual women only somewhat. Most women prefer men who are taller than they are, with symmetrical features (a sign that a potential partner is healthy and parasite-free). But, women across cultures are intent on finding male partners with high status, power, and access to resources—which means a really short guy can add maybe a foot to his height with a private jet. And, just like women who aren't very attractive, men who make very little money or are chronically out of work tend to have a really hard time finding partners. There is some male grumbling about this. Yet, while feminist journalists deforest North America publishing articles urging women to bow out of the beauty arms race and "Learn to love that woman in the mirror!", nobody gets into the ridiculous position of advising men to "Learn to love that unemployed guy sprawled on the couch!"

Much more at the link.;)

Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201010/the-truth-about-beauty)

Rockntractor
11-06-2010, 09:11 PM
Did they really need a study on this?

Gingersnap
11-06-2010, 09:32 PM
Did they really need a study on this?

Apparently. Remember, millions of children are being instructed to believe that they "just fine" regardless of objective reality.

In the case of girls, girls really really don't have to be jaw-dropping knockouts to be in the game anymore more than boys have to be Super Jock, but they do have to make some effort.

The girls can't be fat, misshapen lumps and the boys can't be loser couch potatoes.

Articulate_Ape
11-06-2010, 10:24 PM
Apparently. Remember, millions of children are being instructed to believe that they "just fine" regardless of objective reality.

In the case of girls, girls really really don't have to be jaw-dropping knockouts to be in the game anymore more than boys have to be Super Jock, but they do have to make some effort.

The girls can't be fat, misshapen lumps and the boys can't be loser couch potatoes.

Marriage is the great equalizer.

warpig
11-07-2010, 07:07 AM
Remember, beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes all the way to the bone................

Kay
11-07-2010, 10:04 AM
Ugly is easily overcome by good grooming and healthy habits.
What makes a person unattractive is when they totally let themself go.
Wearing dirty wrinkly clothes all the time, gaining lots of weight, men
with wild hairs growing off their ears because they are too lazy to keep
them trimmed back. Tabacco stained teeth that need to be brushed,
reeking of cig smoke, driving a car that is always filthy and full of trash.

Grooming and healthy habits - that's the key to being attractive to others.