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Gingersnap
03-07-2011, 11:00 AM
Wives are the first to tire of marriage after husbands stop being romantic

By Kate Loveys
Last updated at 8:30 AM on 28th February 2011

Women grow weary of their marriage more swiftly than men, a major study has found.

Researchers have embarked on a project to follow the lives of 40,000 British households to establish what makes us happy. Its initial findings show the happiest couples are married, childless and educated to degree level. The man is also in employment and the couple are less than five years into their relationship.

Strikingly, after this point happiness levels tail off, with a steeper decline for women than for men.

Relationship experts believe this is because women do more to maintain the relationship than men by looking after the home and remembering important dates such as relatives’ birthdays. While women do not mind this in the first flush of love, they grow to resent their husbands for not pulling their weight.

The survey also revealed cohabiting couples were significantly less happy in their relationships than those who married.

Understanding Society, a £49million social research project commissioned by the Economic and Social Research Council, has been billed as one of the most comprehensive investigations ever conducted into the life of the nation. It started in 2009 and will gather data every year in face-to-face interviews with more than 100,000 people from 40,000 households.

Today’s publication provides a snapshot of Britain though the eyes of 14,000 households in 2009 – a smaller sample than will be surveyed once the project hits its stride. Those polled were asked to rate their marriage as ‘perfectly happy’, ‘extremely happy’, ‘very happy’, ‘happy’ and ‘unhappy’.

Researchers found that up to five years after the start of the relationship, 55 per cent of men were extremely happy, compared with 57 per cent of women. But 11 years in, women were less happy than their husband. By the time couples reached 40 years, just 26 per cent of women said they were extremely happy, compared with 33 per cent of men.

Psychologist Dr Pam Spurr blamed the trend on men failing to pull their weight.

She said: ‘Women start to question the relationship when, five or six years in, they realise they still do more to nurture the relationship, even if they have a busy career.

‘Men are supposed to be more metrosexual and do more to nurture the woman in their life.

‘But all too often this isn’t the case and the woman does the lion’s share. Men get comfortable in a relationship and forget that women need romance.’

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1361317/Wives-tire-marriage-husbands-stop-romantic.html#ixzz1FviZU4ih

Arroyo_Doble
03-07-2011, 11:14 AM
So. Women are fickle, needy beings with a short attention span and incapable of understanding what the word "commitment" means.

I could have told them that for half the price.

I like the last bit you have. "She" said, eh? Of course "[s]he" will blame men for female inadequacy; that is standard procedure for a female.

Gingersnap
03-07-2011, 11:30 AM
Somewhere along the line women forgot why they needed BFFs. You get all that 'nurturing' from other female friends. They know what it is, how to provide it, and when to tell you to grow up. Men don't seem to require all this emotional fluffing and it's ridiculous to hold them to female standards when they do provide it.

Women need to be more realistic when it comes to the day-to-day ebb and flow of marriage and men need to pick better women. :D

fettpett
03-07-2011, 03:42 PM
Somewhere along the line women forgot why they needed BFFs. You get all that 'nurturing' from other female friends. They know what it is, how to provide it, and when to tell you to grow up. Men don't seem to require all this emotional fluffing and it's ridiculous to hold them to female standards when they do provide it.

Women need to be more realistic when it comes to the day-to-day ebb and flow of marriage and men need to pick better women. :D

damn women just need to stop thinking and feeling about 10,000 different things every 2 secs and they'll be much better off.

Apocalypse
03-07-2011, 05:45 PM
I want to say it was on Laura Ing. radio show I heard this, ether way it was very true and fitting.

Lady caller was complaining about how her husband doesn't act romantic any more bla bla bla....

Laura's response was simple and true;

Why should he treat you like you are his GF if you no longer act like his GF?

I know its easy to blame us guys for the romance slipping away, but in relationships, there are two people. And if the wife is no longer acting like the GF she was while they dated, then don't expect us guys to treat you or act all romantic in return.