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NJCardFan
12-01-2011, 01:53 PM
Tuesday we received foster baby #2, a 6 day old baby girl. We're only going to have her a couple weeks though as the parents are getting their children back. We still have the other one but it looks like we're going to lose him as well and that is tearing us apart.

noonwitch
12-01-2011, 02:06 PM
There will always be more babies, it's just a matter of when.


Just think what a great start the babies have from living in your home! Even when they go home to their biological parents, you and your wife have provided a home and love for their first few months, one of the most crucial developmental stages in their lives. Reactive Attachment Disorder is a common psych diagnosis for foster kids who come into the system at a later age, and they develop the condition because their physical and emotional needs weren't met in the early months of their lives. These babies won't have to face that disorder.

Molon Labe
12-01-2011, 03:05 PM
Tuesday we received foster baby #2, a 6 day old baby girl. We're only going to have her a couple weeks though as the parents are getting their children back. We still have the other one but it looks like we're going to lose him as well and that is tearing us apart.

Man...props to you.

That has got to be so difficult to take something in and care and love it and then have to give it back in hopes it will be OK. You see how fragile people really are and you can't fix the world but you can do a small part.

Wife and I started this in 05 in hopes of adopting, but life got too complicated.

Wei Wu Wei
12-01-2011, 10:18 PM
Way to go. The positive impact of having a good early childhood environment will stay with these kids for life. It's too bad that they need to go back, being moved from home to home, but the important thing is that they got what they needed at this time.

Kudos, much respect.

NJCardFan
12-01-2011, 11:25 PM
Way to go. The positive impact of having a good early childhood environment will stay with these kids for life. It's too bad that they need to go back, being moved from home to home, but the important thing is that they got what they needed at this time.

Kudos, much respect.

The thing that's getting me is that it seems as though child services is more about kowtowing to the parents than the children. They keep changing visitation dates and not telling us. And now the mother is getting Saturday visits. Oy. But we really love this little boy and told child services that if for some reason he's removed from his house, we want him.

AmPat
12-02-2011, 01:05 AM
The thing that's getting me is that it seems as though child services is more about kowtowing to the parents than the children. They keep changing visitation dates and not telling us. And now the mother is getting Saturday visits. Oy. But we really love this little boy and told child services that if for some reason he's removed from his house, we want him.

We took in a teen girl. Whew! The drama was thick. We wanted to help her and steer her toward success. She was taken back to her family (too soon for us). She told us she wanted to stay with us. How bad could life be for her to say that?

You have a true ministry there. The children will prosper because of it.