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Rockntractor
08-20-2012, 02:32 PM
Around 1 per cent of the world's population is reckoned to feel no sexual attraction at all
Genevieve Roberts

Sunday 19 August 2012


From playground chatter to high-street billboards; from magazines, newspapers and television to the subject of junk emails in our inboxes, sex is common currency. But a small, often misunderstood, sometimes disbelieved minority of the population is almost totally overlooked: they feel absolutely no sexual attraction to other people.

A book published in the UK next month claims such men and women, an estimated 1 per cent of the population, should be recognised as a fourth sexual orientation – asexuals.

Professor Anthony Bogaert's book, Understanding Asexuality, argues that a growing number of people consider themselves asexual. He believes asexual people are "an under-studied population" who can feel excluded from our "very sexualised culture". He said our society, "can place expectations on both sexual and asexual people, but particularly asexual people".

Joshua Hatton, 23, a language student from Birmingham, agrees. "Three years ago, I came across asexuality – it explained everything. I no longer had to lie to myself. Young men are expected to have some sort of casual sex; it's all around. Now I feel more comfortable."

Bogaert, an associate professor at Brock University in Canada, defines asexuality as a complete lack of sexual attraction. "There are two forms: people who have some level of sex drive, but don't direct this drive toward others (so they may masturbate); and other people who have no sex drive whatsoever."

The first non-academic conference to tackle asexuality took place at Southbank University, London, last month. Michael Dorι, organiser of the World Pride conference, said: "We want asexuality to be recognised as a valid sexual orientation, rather than a disorder or something people have to hide."

The term asexual became popular in 2001, when David Jay launched the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network – or Aven – website. There are now more than 50,000 members worldwide.

The asexual community is made up of people who define themselves as hetero-romantic, meaning they feel romantic feelings towards the opposite sex, though no sexual desire, homo-romantic, meaning they feel affection for the same sex, and bi-romantic.

'When everyone at school was talking about sex, I wasn't interested at all'

Amy Gallagher, 20, from High Barnet, studies at London College of Communication

"When everyone else my age at secondary school was talking about sex, I wasn't interested at all. I thought there was something wrong with me. I did have sex out of curiosity, but afterwards I had no desire. I'm trying to meet another asexual person. I only came to know of asexual orientation a few months ago. I think if there was more awareness, people would identify themselves. I haven't told that many people."
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/asexuals--the-fourth-sexual-orientation-8060092.html

Lanie
08-20-2012, 10:02 PM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual.

I go out with a guy, trying to push myself into being "normal." I consider that I should consider the possibility of marrying this person down the road. Then, I realize he's racist, that he brags about driving drunk, that he wants to do things too fast, or that he's just an asshole.

I don't know. I think it's me. I'm not normal. I want to be normal, but I can't help myselllllllf! I think I was born this way.

lol.

Rockntractor
08-20-2012, 10:32 PM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual.

I go out with a guy, trying to push myself into being "normal." I consider that I should consider the possibility of marrying this person down the road. Then, I realize he's racist, that he brags about driving drunk, that he wants to do things too fast, or that he's just an asshole.

I don't know. I think it's me. I'm not normal. I want to be normal, but I can't help myselllllllf! I think I was born this way.

lol.

I know I tease you about getting married but there is nothing wrong with celibacy, many great people all through history have been celibate, the Bible says that if you can it is good.

Novaheart
08-20-2012, 11:29 PM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual.

I go out with a guy, trying to push myself into being "normal." I consider that I should consider the possibility of marrying this person down the road. Then, I realize he's racist, that he brags about driving drunk, that he wants to do things too fast, or that he's just an asshole.

I don't know. I think it's me. I'm not normal. I want to be normal, but I can't help myselllllllf! I think I was born this way.

lol.

So introduce him to me. As long as he doesn't drive a Charger, Camaro, or Mustang. I discovered that those are the preferred vehicles of juvenile jackasses across the south.

Hubie
08-21-2012, 12:47 AM
Only fourth? Someone's behind the times.

Wibbins
08-21-2012, 05:10 AM
Only fourth? Someone's behind the times.

Last I read on reddit there were like dozens and how someone chooses a gender like a male thinking he's a female :rolleyes:

txradioguy
08-21-2012, 05:22 AM
So introduce him to me. As long as he doesn't drive a Charger, Camaro, or Mustang. I discovered that those are the preferred vehicles of juvenile jackasses across the south.

Nah...no bigotry in that comment at all.


:rolleyes:

noonwitch
08-21-2012, 08:46 AM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual.

I go out with a guy, trying to push myself into being "normal." I consider that I should consider the possibility of marrying this person down the road. Then, I realize he's racist, that he brags about driving drunk, that he wants to do things too fast, or that he's just an asshole.

I don't know. I think it's me. I'm not normal. I want to be normal, but I can't help myselllllllf! I think I was born this way.

lol.


There are worse things than living a life of celibacy-getting diseases, having babies you can't afford to raise on your own, getting beaten by a man who you didn't realize was a psycho when you met him, and so on.

When you don't have to deal with those things, all your money, after taxes, is yours, to spend, save, or give as you choose.

Zathras
08-21-2012, 09:21 AM
Nah...no bigotry in that comment at all.


:rolleyes:

Nova just doesn't want any competition in the juvenile jackass department. Princess Nova wants to be #1 in that department and, judging by the way he posts on CU, is well on the way to taking the crown.

Rockntractor
08-21-2012, 09:39 AM
When you don't have to deal with those things, all your money, after taxes, is yours, to spend, save, or give as you choose.

Not to mention another valuable commodity, your time.

Novaheart
08-21-2012, 11:21 AM
Nah...no bigotry in that comment at all.


:rolleyes:

I expected a bigger catch, but you're still amusing.

txradioguy
08-21-2012, 01:14 PM
I expected a bigger catch, but you're still amusing.

Whatever Princess.

JB
08-21-2012, 06:42 PM
So introduce him to me. As long as he doesn't drive a Charger, Camaro, or Mustang. I discovered that those are the preferred vehicles of juvenile jackasses across the south.Lanie cast-offs? Dude, surely you can do better. :biggrin-new:

JB
08-21-2012, 06:45 PM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual. <snip>I already have 14 women of CU on my "to boink" list but I will add you.

Novaheart
08-21-2012, 09:20 PM
Lanie cast-offs? Dude, surely you can do better. :biggrin-new:

I'm old. It's been a long time since Mr California.

Hawkgirl
08-21-2012, 09:34 PM
I already have 14 women of CU on my "to boink" list but I will add you.

I bet Nova leads the list.:evil-grin:

JB
08-22-2012, 05:32 AM
I bet Nova leads the list.:evil-grin:You have a weird way of flirting with me but that's OK. I just put you on the list at number 16.

And don't think I didn't see that jab in that Lounge thread. I still owe you for that. :cool:

Lanie
08-22-2012, 03:08 PM
I know I tease you about getting married but there is nothing wrong with celibacy, many great people all through history have been celibate, the Bible says that if you can it is good.

For freedom reasons.

My latest encounter.

I'm at the library, where I usually park in the back. I will stop this for now. My old neighbor approaches me, talks to me some. He makes me feel sorry for him because he's homeless. Then, he hugs and kisses me on the head. Keep in mind this man is in his fifties and I'm in my thirties. He then says "Come here." I come closer and he tries to kiss me. I back away. "No, I don't want that." He's like "Is it my beard?" I make clear that I don't want that and he suggests I've never been kissed before. "I have, but I don't want to." I walk away from him and he's like "You little rascal." I take the long way out of the library.

Gross!!!

And that's what creates asexuality. Perhaps some people just can't find the right person. But then again, maybe some people really don't want any.

txradioguy
08-22-2012, 03:10 PM
For freedom reasons.

My latest encounter.

I'm at the library, where I usually park in the back. I will stop this for now. My old neighbor approaches me, talks to me some. He makes me feel sorry for him because he's homeless. Then, he hugs and kisses me on the head. Keep in mind this man is in his fifties and I'm in my thirties. He then says "Come here." I come closer and he tries to kiss me. I back away. "No, I don't want that." He's like "Is it my beard?" I make clear that I don't want that and he suggests I've never been kissed before. "I have, but I don't want to." I walk away from him and he's like "You little rascal." I take the long way out of the library.

Gross!!!

And that's what creates asexuality. Perhaps some people just can't find the right person. But then again, maybe some people really don't want any.

:rolleyes:

Lanie
08-22-2012, 03:11 PM
I expected a bigger catch, but you're still amusing.

Okay, stop flirting. lol.

Lanie
08-22-2012, 03:12 PM
Whatever Princess.

Oh darn. You too. What the crap?


lol.






I wonder if I can get a head start with running?

txradioguy
08-22-2012, 03:25 PM
Oh darn. You too. What the crap?


lol.


I wonder if I can get a head start with running?

And you wonder why you attract the type of men that you do.

:rolleyes:

Lanie
08-22-2012, 03:40 PM
And you wonder why you attract the type of men that you do.

:rolleyes:

I'm doomed. lol.

Hawkgirl
08-22-2012, 06:47 PM
You have a weird way of flirting with me but that's OK. I just put you on the list at number 16.

And don't think I didn't see that jab in that Lounge thread. I still owe you for that. :cool:

And you're number 5 million buddy, so knock it off before I pull your hair.

ABC in Georgia
08-22-2012, 07:59 PM
I admit it. I think I might be asexual.

I go out with a guy, trying to push myself into being "normal." I consider that I should consider the possibility of marrying this person down the road. Then, I realize he's racist, that he brags about driving drunk, that he wants to do things too fast, or that he's just an asshole.

I don't know. I think it's me. I'm not normal. I want to be normal, but I can't help myselllllllf! I think I was born this way.

lol.

Lanie, Lanie ...

Don't give up girl! You just haven't met the "right guy" yet.

Try dating a real live red blooded *conservative* instead of a metrosexual, full of himself, feminist-type liberal guy.

He might just knock your socks off, or at least "curl your toes!" ... :biggrin-new:

~ ABC

Lanie
08-22-2012, 08:16 PM
Lanie, Lanie ...

Don't give up girl! You just haven't met the "right guy" yet.

Try dating a real live red blooded *conservative* instead of a metrosexual, full of himself, feminist-type liberal guy.

He might just knock your socks off, or at least "curl your toes!" ... :biggrin-new:

~ ABC

Just because they're Republican doesn't mean they're moral. Trust me. I know. Some would argue he wasn't a true conservative though. Or the other one. I want a guy who doesn't mind taking it slow, doesn't mind paying his child support, doesn't drink and drive, brushes his teeth, isn't racist, has his own mind, and stands up to my bullshit. Yeah, he doesn't exist. I think tx might have been onto something for once. I'm so obnoxious. When I'm not being obnoxious, I have a disconnect. Normal men don't want me. I think I'll live the rest of my life like Sheldon. lol.

Apache
08-22-2012, 08:34 PM
Just because they're Republican doesn't mean they're moral. Trust me. I know. Some would argue he wasn't a true conservative though. Or the other one. I want a guy who doesn't mind taking it slow, doesn't mind paying his child support, doesn't drink and drive, brushes his teeth, isn't racist, has his own mind, and stands up to my bullshit. Yeah, he doesn't exist. I think tx might have been onto something for once. I'm so obnoxious. When I'm not being obnoxious, I have a disconnect. Normal men don't want me. I think I'll live the rest of my life like Sheldon. lol.

Since when is Rebuplican=Conservative?

ABC in Georgia
08-22-2012, 08:36 PM
I want a guy who doesn't mind taking it slow, doesn't mind paying his child support, doesn't drink and drive, brushes his teeth, isn't racist, has his own mind, and stands up to my bullshit. Yeah, he doesn't exist.

Not sure about the part I highlighted in red ... but sure he does exist!

There are plenty of nice upstanding guys out there that have the attributes that you are looking for.

Will admit however, they usually all have one thing on their mind most of the time ... :biggrin-new: ... but that is the way our Creator made them!

Perhaps you could work on being a little less "obnoxious" as you put it?

PS ... have you really dated guys that don't brush their teeth? Mercy!

~ ABC

JB
08-22-2012, 08:40 PM
And you're number 5 million buddy5 million? You're a busy girl.

:biggrin-new:

JB
08-22-2012, 08:44 PM
doesn't mind paying his child supportStop dating dudes with kids


brushes his teethAye Carumba, you're standards are low


Normal men don't want meCrazy dudes need love too.


I think I'll live the rest of my life like Sheldon. lol.Actually, I think he had sex. :biggrin-new:

RobJohnson
08-22-2012, 11:13 PM
And you're number 5 million buddy, so knock it off before I pull your hair.

He might enjoy that!

RobJohnson
08-22-2012, 11:15 PM
Just because they're Republican doesn't mean they're moral. Trust me. I know. Some would argue he wasn't a true conservative though. Or the other one. I want a guy who doesn't mind taking it slow, doesn't mind paying his child support, doesn't drink and drive, brushes his teeth, isn't racist, has his own mind, and stands up to my bullshit. Yeah, he doesn't exist. I think tx might have been onto something for once. I'm so obnoxious. When I'm not being obnoxious, I have a disconnect. Normal men don't want me. I think I'll live the rest of my life like Sheldon. lol.

There are plenty of men without kids that also don't drink.

Sometimes the best way to find someone is to quit looking.

Lanie
08-22-2012, 11:41 PM
Since when is Rebuplican=Conservative?

Why does Democrat always equal liberal?

Republicans who vote that way for fiscal reasons, Democrats who have socially conservative values (the social means more to me than anything else). I live in North Carolina. Conservative values are what's for dinner. There aren't liberal men around here. lol.