Originally Posted by Hawkgirl
A lot of it all depends on when and why his family came to this country. If they came here in the late 70s, because they were allies of the Shah and were afraid the Shias were going to kill them for being too secular, well, he might be a good guy. I knew a lot of Iranian muslims in college who were in this category-they did not observe most of the rules of their faith. The females didn't cover up-most didn't even wear a hijab. They were happy to be here and not be dead.
The Iranians (Persians) are a beautiful people, for the most part. Most don't look like Achminawackjob.
It's not about looks, it's about character. Even the "americanized" muslims are controlling. All the money in the world isn't worth it.
Originally Posted by noonwitch
When I was in xray school, I dated a surgical resident who was half syrian and half irish. Born in upstate NY...but he was the most controlling person I've every known. I dated him for over a year because I was afraid to break up with him. He was passive aggressive type that would get upset if I didn't wear a sweater over my uniform which showed my bare arms. He would get upset if I spoke to his fellow residents..... I worked part time in the film library and well, had to talk to the doctors....the list is just too long...When I graduated, I went to NYC and was able to get away from him.
QC, as far as I'm concerned, I would try to deter her.
You said your piece, she knows how you feel, leave it at that. Keep pushing and she'll resent you. Be there for her when she finally wises up or needs help.
My fears would be for any possible kids, especially females. Whatever your friend might be willing to tolerate personally, she might think twice about having her daughter murdered for looking at the wrong boy.
I met him today. He seems cool enough, and after a couple rounds of sake , I said something like. . . I hope this is who you are, because I like you. If this isn't you, I'll put a boot in your ass, it's the American way. Everyone laughed, and he did too, but I think he knows I meant it. Plus, I was kinda being extra goofy, so ...yeah, sake. :p
Not gonna discuss the issue further. Me and Monica are still cool. I feel better now. :D