NJ has watched me on this board for quite some time. Even during my worst debates with the ever deceptive Novaheart, I was never personally insulting. I didn't call names nor purposely disrespect Nova, even when he was hideously and viscerally abusive of me. I simply don't roll that way. I tore Nova's arguments to shreds but not him personally. (You can check some of those old threads if you wish.)
The "????" to NJ was shorthand on a busy day. I give NJ some latitude for being upset because he has a difficult job with inmates who, I imagine, are continuously disrespectful and abusive. I couldn't do his job and I appreciate that he is willing to do it. However, NJ's day-to-day dealings with inmates may color his interactions with people outside the prison system. I believe he projects some of that onto those of us he deals with. That may be why his initial reaction to my "????" was to go after me personally (as never having read the Bible) rather than to ask what I meant or to check what he himself posted.
The issue was, of course, ambiguity as I have outlined earlier on this thread. However, it seems that the question mark response carried some ambiguity of its own, albeit unintentional. One thing we can all learn from this is that what we post may be misunderstood and that, instead of reacting defensively, we should give each other the benefit of the doubt.
The typo of "tine" instead of "tone" may not have helped, either.
Until y'all (ya'll) get used to me (to the degree that's possible), I'll either be more literal or [Sarcasm] use Sarcasm tags [/Sarcasm].
Oh my! I know is not my place to say it, but ...
Being neither an admin., nor even a mod in here, will anyway! :evil-grin:
It is sad to see us (myself included at times) fighting among ourselves, for niggling reasons.
I started posting on the internet back in 1997 ... didn't have many 'emoticons' back in those days, which do come in handy for clarity, I must admit ...
And do recall a good deal of hurt feelings due to misunderstandings between members, and I once called it the "inevitable roller-coaster effect" of posting online.
One day you're up ... the next you're down, all due in most cases to miscommunications for whatever the reasons.
Come on guys, let's try not to get tangled up in the "small stuff" we have enough of all the political shenanigans going on these days to deal with, do we not?
(Stepping down from my soapbox, once again) *blush*