Don't get me wrong, I am completely opposed to the "everybody gets a trophy" attitude that has crept into society. However, the Chinese have a long tradition of the value of "saving face". It is a great life lesson for kids to learn that part of being successful is knowing when to let the other side "save face". That doesn't mean that you roll over. That doesn't mean that you stop trying to succeed. It does mean that when you do succeed, you are as gracious in your winning as you should be in your losing. It's harder, sometimes, to accept graciousness in success than it is in defeat.
I deal with this issue constantly in negotiations. Too many people think that negotiating means you get every nickel on the table. Instead, it's knowing when which nickels are most important to get, and letting the other side have a few, so that the most valuable ones you still get.
I never played a sport that there wasn't a point when the coaches knew the game had been decided, and it's time now to put the scrubs in and refrain from absolute humiliation for the other team.
Again, while I don't think the team needs to apologize for winning, I do think they ought to look at themselves and determine if they acted like true winners, or if they acted like asses.
Either way, an adult is using these kids to score points (not game points) in a twisted kind of way. Now that's really unsporting.
Maybe these kids would be killer ping-pong players or Texas Hold 'Em champs or rope jumpers. In real life, people build on their strengths. Everybody has something that they are good at and basketball clearly isn't the answer here.
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