I feel like Cruella

[Zeus]

I'm not a big fan of trying to micromanage away any risk when it involves marriage...especially when it's the first marriage, there's a possibility of children, and one party will be giving up the opportunity for career advancement in favor of the other partner's career advancement. Marriage involves a bit of a leap of faith. If only one person is willing to make that leap it's not off to a good start.

As an attorney I'm sure you are aware that prenups are more than just trying to screw someone out of something that isn't theirs to begin with. It also entails protection from personal financial liability when it comes to taxes , torts and/or criminal enterprise.

[Phillygirl]

As an attorney I'm sure you are aware that prenups are more than just trying to screw someone out of something that isn't theirs to begin with. It also entails protection from personal financial liability when it comes to taxes , torts and/or criminal enterprise.

Yes, I'm well aware of the nature and purpose of pre-nups. Although the law doesn't require it, I believe they must fundamentally be fair. Every situation is different in terms of what is considered fair. A relatively young, newlywed couple should not have as their (his/her) primary goal, that there is virtually no sharing of assets or risk of reasonable support in the event that the marriage fails after a reasonable amount of time. Nor should one party expect that all of "his" property remain solely his, even if she contributes to it during the marriage, in the event of death or divorce.

Trust me, Zeus. I'm not opposed to pre-nups as a general rule. There is a reason for them. I am opposed to using a pre-nup as a way to a no-risk, all gain, marriage.

[Zeus]

Yes, I'm well aware of the nature and purpose of pre-nups. Although the law doesn't require it, I believe they must fundamentally be fair. Every situation is different in terms of what is considered fair. A relatively young, newlywed couple should not have as their (his/her) primary goal, that there is virtually no sharing of assets or risk of reasonable support in the event that the marriage fails after a reasonable amount of time. Nor should one party expect that all of "his" property remain solely his, even if she contributes to it during the marriage, in the event of death or divorce.

Trust me, Zeus. I'm not opposed to pre-nups as a general rule. There is a reason for them. I am opposed to using a pre-nup as a way to a no-risk, all gain, marriage.

Me too. But the reality of "what's mine is mine & what's used to be yours is now mine" divorce statutes I can see where some feel it a nec precaution.

[Phillygirl]

Me too. But the reality of "what's mine is mine & what's used to be yours is now mine" divorce statutes I can see where some feel it a nec precaution.

What do you think is fair in terms of the definition of "mine" with regards to marriage?

[Zeus]

What do you think is fair in terms of the definition of "mine" with regards to marriage?

Well that would depend upon situations & agreements upon marriage. Seperate property is off the table in Community property states and a prenupis a good start in establishing the paper trail evidence of such.Yes a good/fair prenup will include as best possible future considerations.