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  1. #1 Strong Silent Types Do Better Than Touchy-Feely Types After Collective Trauma. 
    Bottling up feelings after trauma is okay
    Blog Name: Anxiety Insights

    Tuesday, July 29, 2008

    Contrary to popular notions about what is normal or healthy, new research has found that it is okay not to express one's thoughts and feelings after experiencing a collective trauma, such as a school shooting or terrorist attack.

    In fact, people who choose not to express their feelings after such an event may be better off than those who do talk about their feelings, according to University at Buffalo psychologist Mark Seery, PhD, lead author of a study to appear in the August issue of Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology.


    Seery points out that immediately after last year's tragic shootings at Virginia Tech University there were many "talking head" psychiatrists in the media describing how important it is to get all the students expressing their feelings.

    "This perfectly exemplifies the assumption in popular culture, and even in clinical practice, that people need to talk in order to overcome a collective trauma," Seery says.

    "Instead, we should be telling people there is likely nothing wrong if they do not want to express their thoughts and feelings after experiencing a collective trauma. In fact, they can cope quite successfully and, according to our results, are likely to be better off than someone who does want to express his or her feelings."

    Using a large national sample, Seery and co-researchers tested people's responses to the terrorist attacks of 9/11, beginning immediately after the event and continuing for the following two years. In an online survey, respondents were given the chance to express their thoughts and feelings on the day of 9/11 and a few days afterward.

    The researchers then compared people who chose to express their thoughts and feelings versus those who chose not to express.

    If the assumption about the necessity of expression is correct that failing to express one's feelings indicates some harmful repression or other pathology then people who chose not to express should have been more likely to experience negative mental and physical health symptoms over time, the researchers point out.

    "However, we found exactly the opposite: people who chose not to express were better off than people who did choose to express," Seery says.
    This just seems like common sense to me. If you hang around people who are endlessly rehashing how awful they feel about something, you are likely to feel awful yourself even if you were just shocked and angry to begin with. Talking about feelings tends make those feelings more real. This is fine if you are talking about how great your spouse is or how much you enjoy gardening but it's dangerous if the subject strays to depressing or anxiety-building subjects.

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    Bumping for non-drama queen input.
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    Senior Member NonConformist's Avatar
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    So its better to be a man, than a sniveling little pansy, Excellent!!! :D
    "Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - Benjamin Franklin

    "Necessity is the plea for every infringement of human freedom. It is the argument of tyrants, it is the creed of slaves." -William Pitt

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    Senior Member ConJinx's Avatar
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    Some of us men survived the mass Pussification of the '80s & '90. These touchy feely type I doubt have been in many scrapes. Hence their effeminate presence in social situations.
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