Baby boys who have a nanny 'turn into womanisers'
Employing a nanny to look after your baby son could turn him into serial womaniser, claims a psychiatrist.
By Daily Telegraph Reporter
Published: 8:00AM GMT 20 Mar 2010
In the book The Unsolicited Gift, Dr Dennis Friedman said delegating child-rearing responsibilities too soon risks equipping your son with life-long double standards when it comes to women.
This means that even though he could go on to be married he will always have the feeling that another women could cater for all his basic needs.
"It introduces him to the concept of The Other Woman," said Dr Friedman who is 85.
"It creates a division in his mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park, and with whom he feels completely at one.
"As a result, he grows up with the idea that although he will one day go through all the social and sexual formalities of marriage, he will have at the back of his mind the notion of this other woman, who not only knows, but caters for, all his needs."
Baby girls are also not immune, he claims. If they have a nanny or au pair they are filled with a "vacuum of need" inside them which they fill in a variety of ways such as drink, drugs, sex or money.
He said that his comments would not be popular with women who feel they have a right to have a career and social life while bringing up their baby.
But that the baby has a right too, he said - the right to have a relationship with a mother who is "100 per cent connected".