The RCC does list lack of virginity as possible grounds for annulment. However, if the parties in question went through the Pre-Cana counseling that is offered and urged, they would have worked through those issues long before the nuptials.
In real life it is impossible to detect all female virgins although some have bleeding. I knew a girl who broke her hymen with an awkward high dive when I was on the swim team. Go figure.
This kind of stuff rackles my inner feminist.
1. I hate it when female virginity is defined as having a hymen. Does this mean that rape victims who have never voluntarily had sex are not virgins? That's a backwards mentality, and where it doesn't surprise me to hear it expressed by european muslims, I don't like it that the french courts agreed.
2. Why do men of any backround expect a woman to be a virgin by that definition, in this day and age? Women ride horses, fall off bikes, use tampons, etc., things that sometimes break hymens without being sexual acts.
Megimo beat me to the Deut. quote, which I think just underscores my point that viewing women and virginity in such a way is part of the old way of thinking and needs to end in the modern world. There's also the part in the same book that tells us to stone urban rape victims if they don't scream. We don't do that in the modern world, whether we chalk it up to Christianity's influence or feminism, or both (Jesus was a feminist, in a way, because he valued women in a culture and time that didn't do so).
It happens frequently enough that it should be recognized. I think there was a case in Nigeria in the last few years, although I don't think the stoning actually ended up taking place. A Sharia court convicted a rape victim of adultry and sentenced her to death by stoning.
If I remember correctly, the Taliban executed women in a public arena for adultry.
I defend american muslims and their right to practice their religion, and so far, we don't see a lot of this kind of action in the american muslim community, probably because they understand that our law enforcement is not going to tolerate that kind of crap. But I get really annoyed with DUers who minimize the anti-female aspect within a good part of Islam.
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