#1 What women REALLY want: To marry a rich man and stay at home with the children01-11-2011, 10:50 AMWhat women REALLY want: To marry a rich man and stay at home with the children
By Liz Hull
Last updated at 7:49 AM on 10th January 2011
Return of the housewife? A new survey suggests most women would prefer to be at home with the children
Most women still prefer to marry a man who earns more money than they do and would stay at home with their children if they could afford it, according to a survey published yesterday.
Despite years of equality campaigning and advances for women in the workplace, 64 per cent said they aspire to find a husband who brings home a larger pay packet than they do. None wanted to marry a man who earned less. And 69 per cent said they would prefer to stay at home to look after their children if money were not an issue.
Only 19 per cent wanted their other half to be better educated than they are. Instead 62 per cent said they wanted a man to have the same level of intellect. Thirty-one per cent thought they were better educated than their other halves, while 19 per cent thought their husbands were better educated.
The survey follows controversial research published last week by Dr Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics, which claimed more women are choosing to ‘marry up’ by picking wealthy men for their spouse than in the 1940s. In her report, published by the Centre for Policy Studies think-tank, she said men dominate the top positions because women do not want careers in business.
She also criticised David Cameron for backing the idea of quotas to ensure that leading companies appointed more women to their boards. The research, which drew on existing data from Britain and Spain, showed that 20 per cent of British women married husbands with a significantly better education than their own in 1949.
By the 1990s, the percentage of women deciding to ‘marry up’ had climbed to 38 per cent – with a similar pattern repeated in the rest of Europe, the U.S. and Australia.
The report concluded that equal roles in the family, where husband and wife shared employment, childcare and housework, was ‘not the ideal sought by most couples’. Now a YouGov survey of 922 women, aged between 18 and 65, which was conducted for the Sunday Times last week, has backed Dr Hakim’s claims.
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01-11-2011, 11:15 AM
Every woman but my sister, who is really into working.
As I don't have kids and probably won't (there is no way in hell I'm going to be a 60 year old mother of a teenager), I'll be working until I retire. 8 years, 10 months.
01-11-2011, 11:30 AM
I would have preferred less working time when the kids were younger, but needed to support them, so no good options were available. The ex didn't like to work, had more education than I (had many advanced degrees, a professional student). I "brought in the bacon" with a mere BA, with dual majors in English and political science. But at least I gave an example of the value of working both hard and smart to my two sons.
Most women probably would like a mix of the intellectual stimulation of a job, as well as the monetary rewards, with adequate time to spend with the kids. It's not always attainable.
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01-11-2011, 11:52 AM
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- Mar 2010
Two things would have made my career more fulfilling (I am a retired salesman become trucker became retired again).
1) If I made as much money as everyone thought I did.
2) If traveling was as much fun as everyone thinks it is.
Work is work. Women find out - just as men do - that the glamor of work wears off. Every time you get a promotion you get all fired up again, and then it wears off again.
Then you realize that the world is run by sociopaths. It always has been. Maybe women figure this out before men do, maybe men figure it out and become sociopaths so they can get ahead. Probably a blend of both.
01-11-2011, 12:27 PM
Who wouldn't, man or woman, want to spend more time with their children if money were not an issue?Originally Posted by Adam Smith - Wealth of Nations
01-11-2011, 12:35 PM
These findings haven't changed much over the past 10,000 years. It's breaking the backs of countries that finance stay-at-home Moms, too. Sadly.
01-11-2011, 12:35 PM
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- Mar 2010
All though, I have to say I do not envy my friend Cruella who is a househusband. Sure, he doesn't have to commute to work, gets to spend a couple of months a year in Florida, has a decent allowance and a Lincoln, etc... but the price is too high. Being responsible for taking care of a neurotic breadwinner is too much.
I've also noticed that many of these women who want to marry well and stay home with the kids, seek to divorce-well shortly after the kid/kids are born.
The funny thing about people you give money to is that they soon come to expect it, then they come to believe that they deserve it, then they come to believe that you owe it to them. It's rather like salary, no matter how much you pay someone, after a while he thinks he deserves more.
01-11-2011, 07:11 PM
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- May 2008
- Northern Virginia
No, what we really want is to marry a rich man and stay at home without children. Easier to schedule lunch dates at the country club, that way. :)
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