The White Man's Burden
By Robin of Berkeley
I was just filling out an application to be a provider for an insurance panel. And one of the questions they ask is, "Are you a GLBT-owned business?"
GLBT means gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered. I rolled my eyes when I saw this. I thought, "So, if I share my bed with a woman, I would be a superior therapist, a more desirable member of your insurance panel?"
Of course, the questionnaire also asked whether I were a minority- or female-owned business. Apparently, if I were an Asian woman who sleeps with other women, I would be a Most Valuable Player in the psychotherapy world.
What also occurred to me while filling out the application is that every special category exists aside from that of a white, straight male. If someone is gay or a woman or a person of color, the welcome mat is laid out. But what about an ordinary Joe, a working-class stiff from Toledo?
How does he get into college when all the recruitment efforts are aimed at others? And if he does get in, how does he afford it -- especially now, with Obama at the helm?
I heard a while back that ObamaCare snuck a backdoor scheme into ObamaCare, for the government to make student loans, not the banks. If this happens, you better believe that the money will be shelled out based on "social and economic justice."
Some young men turn to the military as a way of accessing needed funds for college. What are the consequences?
They are, in fact, grave: white, working class men are at much higher risk of being mortally wounded in the battleground than their privileged counterparts. And while the working class risk their lives, the snooty elite go to college on daddy's dime.
So let's put the pieces together here: everyone aside from a white, straight guy can obtain all sorts of special help in the form of jobs, financial aid, and college enrollment. On top of this, there are scholarships and grants galore for most people, aside from white males. (There are even college scholarships for illegals.)
But a white guy -- even one with who is broke -- gets very little. He may choose to join the Army instead, and possibly be seriously injured.
What is wrong with this picture?
Of course, I really shouldn't talk since I helped create the mess we're in. As a feminist, I spent much of my youth marching for women's rights. I have expended countless hours complaining about inequities toward women.
But I have seen the light. I now realize that we've created a monster with so many people wailing about sexism and racism and all the other "isms."
After decades of grievances, we haven't turned into a fairer nation; we're simply an angrier one. In the age of Obama, aggrieved groups have joined together to demand their rights, endeavoring to put the white man under their thumb.
Now men are marginalized and demonized. They are given the demoralizing message that they are unnecessary. Of course, this message is fallacious.
The United States would cease to operate if conservative white males went on strike tomorrow (not necessarily a bad idea, by the way). We'd do just fine shorn of most of the metrosexual crowd -- the college professors and the activists. But we'd crash and burn without the manly man. It's he who does the essential work that others cannot, like patrol our streets, extinguish fires, and drive tractors.
As a former progressive, I know how tempting it is to blame others for our own problems. It's easier to implicate the "system" or the Man than to take a good and hard look in the mirror.
But this life is not about "getting mine;" it's about what we have to offer the world. It's about living with dignity and honor, not a thirst for revenge.
Life is not fair; it is not supposed to be fair. Someone, somewhere will always have more, while others will have less. Disappointment is hard-wired into this human realm; and this is just as true for the white man as the person of color.
The Buddha put it this way, that life is composed of the "l0,000 joys and the l0,000 sorrows." We grow old, we get sick, and, one day, we and our bodies will perish.
And when that day happens, we won't take anything with us except for our character -- or lack of it. And there are no amount of laws or affirmative action programs that can change the way the world works.