(1000+ posts) Thu Oct-20-11 05:06 AM
Original message Regarding the male privelige...Apologists and those who want to troll don't bother reading this.
Being Transgendered,a Female to male ,I can tell you first hand that male privilege exists.Some guys DO talk about women like a piece of meat to fuck.They do get off on depictions of female degradation. It's disgusting how arrogant some guys are strutting around like little roosters,and hollering a sexual slurs,or harassment to a woman happens to be near or touching her when she does not want to be touched,that is bullying and a disregard of her humanity and her power over her own body.No male would tolerate it if a woman the male did not like groped him he would stop the groper.If a woman punches a groper she's a prude a harpy,in reality just like the man,she's defending the boundary of his body.Everyone has a right to defend themselves from unwanted gropes,touches or cruel comments.Sadly women have forgotten they have a right to defend themselves as much as any guy would. This is about POWER and the abuse of it.
... Rape can permanently damage a person for LIFE. I have seen guys joking about it, in private,looking at women tied up in ropes.It was a mental circle jerk to the idea of gang raping a helpless person. It was a terrible thing to witness but these guys didn't see it that way because the power dynamics of abuse they were doing was invisible to them..They didn't know I was not always a guy,so they were disarmed around me. I have the testosterone level of a normal guy, my blood tests prove it and yes some things changed ,but I have not become cruel.I see a nice looking person I don't have to yell anything about her body in public to appreciate her seductiveness or beauty. In reality There is no need to ever believe any guy says MUST have sex, or needs to look at violent porn to get off or cannot control his sexual drive ,he is a liar 100%.A guy who yells shit at women about their bodies is a man that likes to scare/intimidate/humiliate, or abuse power with women,it's a lust for POWER not lust or love, or even lust at all motivating that,it is reinforcing rank of power.. It may very well be a learned behavior or a sadist problem it's really a distortion of power some men have.A gender based DISPARITY OF POWER is what's defined as male privilege.Along with abusing power and the desire to make a woman feel bad,or be intimidated.Stuff like looking at porn is not a victim-less act,men may very well be looking at pictures of slaves.Confront them and they go denying the women in the pictures could be a fuel for sex trafficking,a huge profit maker for criminals.http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/business/4532617.stm
To some men who behave this way or apologists for it are unaware of the other's point of veiw,reinforcing the invisibility of privilege.Rank is a drug. The more you have, the less aware you are of how it effects others negatively.
All that shit like porn,dehumanizing women,violating boundaries that certain men defend like an addict claiming his heroin use is not hurting anyone, has NOTHING to do with having testosterone in your bloodstream ,love or sexuality at all.It has everything to do with POWER and the abusive dynamics of power that privilege provides a place for.The more conscious we are of rank and privilege in all it's forms and seek to SHARE power and strive for more equality the less conflict privilege will cause for people.