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    This letter was written by Ronald Reagan to his son, Michael, on the occasion of his wedding. It's a thoughtful, wonderful piece of writing and provides real wisdom.

    In June of 1971, just days before his 26-year-old son, Michael, got married, future-U.S. President Ronald Reagan sent him the following letter of advice. It really is quite stunning.

    (Source: Reagan: A Life In Letters; Image: Ronald Reagan, via.)

    Michael Reagan
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    June 1971

    Dear Mike:

    Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won't.

    You've heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the "unhappy marrieds" and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.

    Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.

    Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

    Love,

    Dad

    P.S. You'll never get in trouble if you say "I love you" at least once a day.
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    Thank you Ronnie, you continue to deliver even from the grave. Something our present Occupier could learn from if only he were able.
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    And that marriage of Michael's lasted one whole year. He was actually married in 1970, and divorced in 1971.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    And that marriage of Michael's lasted one whole year. He was actually married in 1970, and divorced in 1971.
    Yeah, you're right, Ronnie's letter was the culprit.
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    Nope. Ronnie's letter probably had nothing to do with it either way. It's interesting that his letter focuses entirely on sexual fidelity, though - maybe he knew what Michael's weak point was likely to be?
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    Nope. Ronnie's letter probably had nothing to do with it either way. It's interesting that his letter focuses entirely on sexual fidelity, though - maybe he knew what Michael's weak point was likely to be?
    Oh, my mistake. A wonderful letter from a dad to his son was posted offering his son some great advice and wisdom, and you immediately pointed out the failed marriage. I guess I interpreted your negative response incorrectly???
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    Yes, but it's not the first time you've done so, and it won't be the last.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    Yes, but it's not the first time you've done so, and it won't be the last.
    You know, you could have just said that it was a nice letter, and let it go at that. Did you disagree with the advice?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Odysseus View Post
    You know, you could have just said that it was a nice letter, and let it go at that. Did you disagree with the advice?
    But the RINO in her insists she put the negative spin on anything Conservative.

    In that way she's like our resident Romney basher.

    They are both beating on the same dead horse.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    Yes, but it's not the first time you've done so, and it won't be the last.
    Strange, I wonder why I do that with your posts??? I suppose you have no part in that.
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