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    I tried having this discussion on another board and some of the responses kind of upset me. What is everyone here's stance on purity? I am a virgin and would personally prefer to remain that way and marry someone who is also a virgin, so that our experience is special and exclusive. I don't like the idea of waiting thirty years just to be number two or number three, and, while I would not judge someone based on their past relations alone, it is kind of important to me, personally.

    What bothers me is that it has suddenly become "wrong" to think this way. The last time I brought this up, a bunch of people (mostly females) started yelling about how this is some terrible shallow concept and that we men should feel sorry for ourselves and just bend over and accept anything, never mind that this is the way most people have viewed marriage from the start and that it's the way it should be. To top it off, this was at a "Christian" forum, where I would expect most people would feel the same.

    So, just out of curiosity, what are your thoughts on purity?

    I just noticed, if this would be more fitting in General Discussion, feel free to move it there. My bad.
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    I think deciding when, and with whom, and under what circumstances, to have sex is a very personal decision and up to each individual. You have to decide what is right for you, and what's important to you in a partner, whether other people approve of that or not.
    It's really no one else's business, after all.

    However, I personally don't subscribe to the term "purity" to equate to virginity, as if the act of having sex in itself made someone dirty or sullied in some way.
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    I think that anyone who can remain a virgin until that Mr. or Ms. Right comes along should wear that decision like a badge of honor in this day and age. Never be ashamed to be pure, because there is absolutely no shame to be found in purity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    It's really no one else's business, after all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chex View Post
    I tried having this discussion on another board and some of the responses kind of upset me. What is everyone here's stance on purity? I am a virgin and would personally prefer to remain that way and marry someone who is also a virgin, so that our experience is special and exclusive. I don't like the idea of waiting thirty years just to be number two or number three, and, while I would not judge someone based on their past relations alone, it is kind of important to me, personally.

    What bothers me is that it has suddenly become "wrong" to think this way. The last time I brought this up, a bunch of people (mostly females) started yelling about how this is some terrible shallow concept and that we men should feel sorry for ourselves and just bend over and accept anything, never mind that this is the way most people have viewed marriage from the start and that it's the way it should be. To top it off, this was at a "Christian" forum, where I would expect most people would feel the same.

    So, just out of curiosity, what are your thoughts on purity?

    I just noticed, if this would be more fitting in General Discussion, feel free to move it there. My bad.
    Adult male virgins are relatively rare nowadays (outside of comic book and Star Trek conventions), partly because the culture is so sexed up, but also because men traditionally seek sex more intensely than women, so people are going to have a difficult time accepting that you have remained a virgin by choice. I think that you are correct about the problem of finding a like-minded woman, but even if the person that you marry is not a virgin, it does not mean that the act is not special. Remember that even if you are not her first, she will be yours, and that will make it special to both of you.

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    However, I personally don't subscribe to the term "purity" to equate to virginity, as if the act of having sex in itself made someone dirty or sullied in some way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Odysseus View Post

    Woody Allen was once asked if he thought that sex was dirty, and he replied, "It is if you are doing it right."
    I actually thought of that line as I was typing my response, and while it is amusing, there is such a thing as "over valuing" virginity in women. In some cultures, their lives can depend on it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    I actually thought of that line as I was typing my response, and while it is amusing, there is such a thing as "over valuing" virginity in women. In some cultures, their lives can depend on it.
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    There's nothing wrong with your decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by linda22003 View Post
    I actually thought of that line as I was typing my response, and while it is amusing, there is such a thing as "over valuing" virginity in women. In some cultures, their lives can depend on it.
    This is true. However, there is a difference between choosing to wait and being forced to do so.
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