Thread: My Daughter
06-11-2013, 02:02 AM
You sound like a great mom to me, Hawkgirl. In my opinion all children should be shy and quiet. Why, you shouldn't even know they are there as far as I'm concerned.
06-11-2013, 09:15 AM
It sounds like she's a perfectly normal kid. You've raised her to be polite, which is not as common in our culture as it used to be, so that may translate into what the teachers see as shyness. Also, kids go through phases, sometimes outgoing, sometimes shy. I wouldn't worry about it, and you certainly shouldn't blame your parenting. It sounds like you are doing a good job with her. Besides, no matter what you do, she's still going to tell her therapist how awful you were when she grows up.--Odysseus
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06-11-2013, 10:02 AM
From someone who is in a profession that is all about recognizing messed up kids and parents, I will say that you are a good parent and your daughter is normal and healthy. She's quiet and shy in a new situation-that is normal behavior for a 4 year old.
In Hamlet, Polonious gives his son the famous "neither a borrower nor a lender be" speech. In it, he advises Laertes to "give all men thine ear and few thy tongue". That has always been considered wise advise. Although, if you are in my age range, it's really hard to read or hear that speech without thinking about the cast of Gilligan's Island singing it to the tune of The Toreador Song from Carmen.
06-11-2013, 07:37 PM
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06-11-2013, 08:52 PMWe have no government armed with power capable of contending with human passions unbridled by morality and religion. Avarice, ambition, revenge or gallantry would break the strongest cords of our Constitution as a whale goes through a net. Our Constitution is designed only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate for any other.In my many years I have come to a conclusion that one useless man is a shame, two is a law firm, and three or more is a congress.
06-11-2013, 09:42 PMShe is an only child etc. ...
Please believe me, she is doing just fine, and you as a parent, are doing the right thing.
Don't fall for the line that only children are missing out on so many things in their lives. It is not true. For one thing, IMO, and from studies done (which I can't be bothered to look up at the moment) they more often than not turn out be quite well adjusted and even more successful in many cases, than those with siblings.
I too, am a mother of an only child, and was told on a few occasions by well-meaning friends, that I was far too strict, and tended to treat him as a tiny "adult" and expected way too much of him. Hogwash!
One thing I must admit that Mr. ABC and I did do as he was growing up, was to always take one of his friends (once even 2 of them at the same time) on vacation with us. It was fun!
Gotta run! Relax Hawk! You're doing fine!American By Choice ~ 1980
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