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  1. #1 That New Jersey teen who left home? Dad woke her up at night to play beer pong. 
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    Maybe this case of the New Jersey girl suing her parents for tuition and her college fund has another side. Apparently, the parents were very permissive...until the boyfriend came along.

    N.J. judge denies teen honor student’s request for emergency funds in suit against parents



    New Jersey teen Rachel Canning, who accused her parents of a pattern of abuse - including accusations of "inappropriate affection" from her father - that eventually led to the girl being kicked out of their Lincoln Park home last year won't be getting a free ride just yet.

    A judge Tuesday ruled against the rebellious teen's bid to have her living expenses covered and her college tuition expenses footed by her father Sean and Elizabeth - a setback for the girl who has captured national attention with the unusual lawsuit.

    Morristown Superior Court Judge Peter Bogaard appears to have agreed with an independent investigators' assessment of the home atmosphere: that the high school cheerleader and lacrosse player is “spoiled.”

    ....The teen detailed a pattern of abuse that led her to develop bulimia and question whether father truly did know best.

    Canning claimed that her "inappropriately affectionate" dad would push her to binge drink and wake her up in the middle of the night to play beer pong, according to court documents obtained by NBC New York.

    On several occasions, the allegedly dangerously doting dad told the pretty teen that he viewed her not just as a daughter, but "more than that," the station reported.


    Her mother, meanwhile, tossed barbs at the girl such as "fat" and "porky" that caused her to shrink to a startling 92 pounds by her junior year, derailing her high school basketball career.

    ... The parents say their rebellious daughter refused to drop a dud of a boyfriend and failed to follow simple house rules such as doing chores and making curfew.

    She willingly left the home, they contend.

    ... Rachel Canning has lived in the Rockaway, N.J. home of classmate Jaime Inglesino. Inglesino’s father, John Inglesino, has foot the bill for the girl’s lawyer fees, more than $12,000 thus far.

    “My parents have rationalized their actions by blaming me for not following their rules,” Rachel Canning said in her court papers, according to The Daily Record. “They stopped paying my high school tuition to punish the school and me and have redirected my college fund, indicating their refusal to afford me an education as a punishment.”

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    http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local...248407851.html

    Canning outlines a litany of alleged abuse that involved demeaning comments about her weight, as well as inappropriate encounters with her father. She says her mother called her "fat" and "porky" as she was growing up, and she developed an eating disorder her sophomore year of high school. By her junior year, she says she weighed 92 pounds and was no longer healthy enough to play basketball, which she says angered her father.

    Canning alleges her father was "inappropriately affectionate" toward her for much of her life, and claims he fed her so much alcohol that she blacked out on occasion. Once, she alleges, he woke her up in the middle of the night to drink and play beer pong. Frequently, she says, he told her that he didn't view her as a daughter, but as "more than that."

    Shortly before she moved out of her parents' house, Canning says she was wrongly accused of being drunk at a homecoming dance and had to call her parents. She says her mother and father, who were in Las Vegas at the time, "began screaming obscenities" and the teacher in the room with her heard the curses. When Canning complained to the school about the alleged longtime abuse she had endured, the school called child services and her parents, in retaliation, then cut her off and directed her college funds elsewhere.

    Rachel Canning says she doesn't think returning home is a viable option, nor does her therapist.

    "I am not willingly and voluntarily leaving a reasonable situation at home to make my own decisions," Canning wrote in a statement to the court. "I had to leave to end the abuse. My parents simply will not help me any longer. They want nothing to do with me and refuse to even help me financially outside the home although they certainly have the ability to do so."
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    Some things to think about:

    1. If a mother is haranguing her daughter about weight to the point where the daughter develops an eating disorder, that IS abuse.

    2. If a father uses his authority to get an underage daughter to binge drink to blackouts with him, that IS ALSO abuse.

    3. If the father is a cop and contributing to the delinquency of a minor, he should be suspended from his job in law enforcement.

    4. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter--even if it's not physical--and the mother is jealous of this, the abuse in #1 is easily explained.

    5. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter and she gets a boyfriend, the father pulling rank and coming down with new rules and curfews is easily explained.

    This is a sick family system. The girl is well out of it. Sometimes abuse is more subtle than is obvious to the outside. CPS can miss stuff like this.

    As to whether the parents owe her a college fund and expenses, that is a legal question and the answer to that is "no."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elspeth View Post
    Some things to think about:

    1. If a mother is haranguing her daughter about weight to the point where the daughter develops an eating disorder, that IS abuse.

    2. If a father uses his authority to get an underage daughter to binge drink to blackouts with him, that IS ALSO abuse.

    3. If the father is a cop and contributing to the delinquency of a minor, he should be suspended from his job in law enforcement.

    4. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter--even if it's not physical--and the mother is jealous of this, the abuse in #1 is easily explained.

    5. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter and she gets a boyfriend, the father pulling rank and coming down with new rules and curfews is easily explained.

    This is a sick family system. The girl is well out of it. Sometimes abuse is more subtle than is obvious to the outside. CPS can miss stuff like this.

    As to whether the parents owe her a college fund and expenses, that is a legal question and the answer to that is "no."
    No mistaking what side of this your on. And being female it's not surprising. Did it ever occur to you that she is making shit up to build her case?
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    Quote Originally Posted by NJCardFan View Post
    No mistaking what side of this your on. And being female it's not surprising. Did it ever occur to you that she is making shit up to build her case?
    Whoa there!

    Note the word "if".

    And let's take a few steps back here.

    Thus far:

    1. I do not believe she deserves any money. I think that's an open invitation to Obama's band of thieves to extend childhood financially beyond any reasonable expectations.

    2. I do believe that the parents have a role here.


    • There is documentation of the bulimia and its treatment.
    • There are probably also psychiatric records of the mother-daughter relationship which could demonstrate the mother's role in her child's illness.
    • There is no documentation of the father and the binge drinking, although if the mother were forced to be honest on the stand, that might be able to be ascertained.
    • There is a witness to the phone call with her parents when they screamed at her for being accused of drunkenness at school.
    • The (Catholic) school was concerned enough to call CPS.

    3. The girl has the support of her best (female) friend's parents and they are supporting her. The Cannings are contributing nothing towards her upkeep.

    4. Yes, she may be 18, but she is still in high school and wants to finish. Apparently, the Catholic school was her parents' choice, not hers.

    5. She wants to major in a science in college. I have respect for kids who go through the science track at school and maintain a 3.5 (especially at a Catholic school). That's not easy to do. She clearly has some sense of discipline.


    Now, all of that said, it is possible that this is a simple case of a girl who won't give up a boyfriend her parents disapprove of and all hell breaking loose. But if it is not, then we need to wait as more facts come out.

    I'm keeping an open mind on the subject.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NJCardFan View Post
    Did it ever occur to you that she is making shit up to build her case?
    The majority of the allegations struck me as most likely being of that sort...about 10% based in fact, embellished with 90% creative license.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DumbAss Tanker View Post
    The majority of the allegations struck me as most likely being of that sort...about 10% based in fact, embellished with 90% creative license.
    A lot depends on the family situation at home. As I have written here, I have seen family situations in which one parent takes an opposite sex child as a "partner" or "pal", leaving the other parent in the cold. It wreaks havoc in the home.

    We really don't know yet. We'll have to wait for more details.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elspeth View Post
    Some things to think about:

    1. If a mother is haranguing her daughter about weight to the point where the daughter develops an eating disorder, that IS abuse.

    2. If a father uses his authority to get an underage daughter to binge drink to blackouts with him, that IS ALSO abuse.

    3. If the father is a cop and contributing to the delinquency of a minor, he should be suspended from his job in law enforcement.

    4. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter--even if it's not physical--and the mother is jealous of this, the abuse in #1 is easily explained.

    5. If the father is inappropriately close with the daughter and she gets a boyfriend, the father pulling rank and coming down with new rules and curfews is easily explained.

    This is a sick family system. The girl is well out of it. Sometimes abuse is more subtle than is obvious to the outside. CPS can miss stuff like this.

    As to whether the parents owe her a college fund and expenses, that is a legal question and the answer to that is "no."
    If the father is a cop, then that would explain why nothing resulted out of the call to child protective services. I've heard about how easily cops can get away with abuse of their spouses. I doubt that their kids would be different. I also know from personal experience that when you call social services on somebody they respect, often nothing comes out of it. The person you accuse is just made to look like a victim when they're not one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lanie View Post
    If the father is a cop, then that would explain why nothing resulted out of the call to child protective services. I've heard about how easily cops can get away with abuse of their spouses. I doubt that their kids would be different. I also know from personal experience that when you call social services on somebody they respect, often nothing comes out of it. The person you accuse is just made to look like a victim when they're not one.
    That is sometimes true but then again I have seen it work the opposite.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rockntractor View Post
    That is sometimes true but then again I have seen it work the opposite.
    That's true. I'm trying to keep an open mind either way. I keep thinking if your parents are that bad, then don't create a situation where you would have to owe them anything (such as wanting tuition). At the same time, I understand what it's like to think you can't do without something such as school. I know a lot of kids have a very entitled attitude lately. Like I said, I try to keep an open mind either way. The so called child protective system if a really strange animal. I sometimes wonder if they don't just go after people they don't like and favor people they do like. It's a total joke. Kids who need help can't get it, but others can create one heck of a bad situation because they don't like their parents or want to control them.
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